UM…SO WE WERE THINKING….
When my husband and I were invited to dinner at our friends’ new apartment, we were really looking forward to it. We hadn’t seen them much since their move, and we had yet to see their new place. Plus, who doesn’t want a free dinner that they don’t have to cook themselves? Chicken and biscuits was on the menu, and a plan was brewing that I was yet unaware of.
Ladies and gentlemen, be very, very careful when choosing your bridal party. These are the people who will support you, offer their time and energy, and generally help you make it through one of the biggest days of your life. Choosing your fiance’s cousin because the two of you have a blast when you go out, or your bestest school buddy simply because you talk every day may not be your best option. Apparently my friend learned this lesson the hard way, and found herself less than a year away from her wedding without a Maid of Honor. Yikes! The two lovebirds wracked their brains….who in the world would take this position? Which female friend would be a ready replacement? Did they even have any more female friends? Then…epiphany! The light bulb lit up. Kaila! Kaila can do this, and she works with brides all the time and was just married herself. We’ll ask her!
I had no idea this whole process had taken place, and after they plied me with wonderful wine and delicious chicken and biscuits, I was ambushed and she said, (super-quickly and all in one long breath), “Soo……um…we were thinking. Apparently my Maid of Honor doesn’t want to be my MOH anymore, and we were wondering who else could do it, and who would be better than Kaila because you know, like, you have been there from the beginning and saw us get engaged and go through our growing pains, and now we would love it if you would be my Maid of Honor.”
Yes, that was all said in one breath and I was just as shell shocked as you are right now. Maid of Honor? And who better? Are you kidding me? NOW there’s no one better than me for the role? All these thoughts zipped through my brain as my mouth smiled and said, “I’d love to!”. I really was happy to step in, but felt a bit out of the loop. Planning had been going on for months, and I had no idea what was going on. Anyone who knows me realizes that this offends my organizational sensibilities, but I was prepared to jump right in and make myself useful.
Not all MOHs are this accommodating and helpful, so remember to take your time when choosing your bridal party. I have heard many brides talk about how they wish they had chosen differently for one reason or another, but mainly because they chose someone who wasn’t around, wasn’t able, or who just was plain unhelpful. Don’t make that same mistake, and please don’t be that bride who has to backpedal and offer the 2nd string MOH who was riding the bench the 1st string spot.
Batters Up! I take the plate for my swing at the MOH position next week…..